Why do humans love being in love?

Why do humans love being in love?

People fall in love for a number of reasons. Factors like physical chemistry, sexual attraction and shared interests may trigger that initial spark, but when asked the majority of people say that the key factor to both falling (and staying) in love is compatibility! Here are top reasons why we fall in love.

Intimacy, Passion and Commitment
The most common reasons why we fall in love are intimacy, passion and commitment. Everyone likes to be loved. Men wish to satisfy their masculinity, and women want to explore their femininity. An emotional connection with someone of your choice not only enhances self-esteem but also gives a sense of security.

A strong passionate feeling may lead to sexual



attraction, physical intimacy and romance. The sexual interest may also develop because of lust, infatuation or obsession. A longing for a healthy and stable relationship leads people to seek commitment. Commitment is complete love if it also includes friendship and sexual attraction.

The Psychology of Love
Our brains are wired to feel bliss and euphoria of love and romance. The pleasure of bonding floods the brain with feel-good neurochemicals such as dopamine and oxytocin. Our life experiences, relations with family and friends, mental and emotional health and most importantly self-esteem all influence whom we’re attracted to. We’re attracted to subtle physical features and attributes, though unconsciously, that remind us of a family member. We can also be attracted to the person who has got emotional and behavioral patterns similar to a member from our family.  
 
Biological Reasons for Love
It’s a universal human phenomenon. Love appears to have deep evolutionary roots in humans, but scientists have long struggled to suggest concrete biological reasons for love. However, as per the conventional view in biology is that there are three major drives in love - libido, attachment, and partner preference. The primary neurochemicals (neurotransmitters, sex hormones, and neuropeptides) that govern these drives are testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin. If we psychologically translate this to simpler words - Love influences reproductive success in humans. They unconsciously participate in the evolutionary process to mate and reproduce - a drive to keep the species in existence!